Tuesday, 27 January 2009

Hug your family.

The husband of a friend of my missus died tragically last night in a car accident. Three young children left without a dad and a wife without a husband in a blink of an eye.

It's really easy to take for granted the time we all spend with each other but sometimes a tragedy like this is an unfortunate reminder of the fragility of the human body and its grip on its existence and how common it is for someone to unknowingly see their loved one walk out the door for the last time.

Don't forget to just look in the eye of the people you love and just tell them what they mean to you occasionally.

19 comments:

  1. Shit! Sad to hear that Moko.

    I don't know if it is my personality or a reflection of my last couple of years, but I have become really concious of leaving the house on a positive note these days.

    I think as you say, I have become overally aware of the fragility of us all.

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  2. "Don't forget to just look in the eye of the people you love and just tell them what they mean to you occasionally"

    I just spent some quality time in front of the mirror doing just that!

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  3. For this very reason, when in a relationship, I try to enforce a rule that we must always have a kiss before leaving the house and always a kiss goodnight.

    You just never know.

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  4. That's so sad, Moko. Sympathies to your friend.

    Road accidents are so awful - being a journo, we just report on them all the time. You sadly do become a bit used to them. We've had a really tragic start to the year in Queensland as far as road fatalities go. It's a good reminder that while you may see it on the news or hear it on the radio, there's dozens if not hundreds of lives now badly affected due to that person's death.

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  5. My immediate family has lost two members in separate road crashes. We don't call them accidents - drinking then driving or using excessive speed are a matter of when not if, there is no 'accident' involved.

    You're totally right about how fragile we are and how quickly our lives cn change.

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  6. Sorry to hear Moko, sympathies to all involved.
    Often we forget just what a lethal weapon a car can be.

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  7. Sorry that this has happened.

    You're right about it all to easy to take things for granted. Fortunately I always try and let my wife know how much i love her (sickening i know)

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  8. Don't tell me shit like this, Moko. I live in fear of leaving my kids and my wife alone. But... I'm happy to say that I think most of my friends and family know how I feel. Usually, anyway.

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  9. Over the past couple of years, I've tried to make it a point to tell my children and my S.O. that I love them whenever one of us is leaving the presence of the other. I've lost friends and family to car crashes, plane crashes, and all manner of illness. Love is the glue that keeps us from totally falling apart when something tragic happens.

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  10. Also, try not to leave your closest on an angry note, especially if the argument was over something trivial. Again, you never know-they may die in an accident and your last memory will be fighting over which way the toilet paper should hang on the roller or some other dumb thing.

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  11. YD, that is not trivial.....it should always hang from the back. Very bad example.

    And you're right Moko, it's important to do this. I would be a mental case now if I hadn't taken the time to talk to my dad the night before he died.

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  12. Point taken. Love-you's will be duly dished out ad-nauseum from now on.

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  13. Time waits for no one, and death doesn't wait for good byes. My condolences, Moko. Excellent piece.

    Steve, if it hangs from the front, just a swat down on the roll will dispense it, no need to reach that extra four inches and look for the end.

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  14. Thanks guys. All very much appreciate your thoughts.

    To the front, of course. If EVERYONE did it that way then I wouldn't waste precious seconds of my existence rolling the blasted thing the wrong way.

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  15. Spent last Sunday making breakfast for the missus, after which we did some minor work in the garden.

    While we were there she had a cerebral anurism - have spent the last week and a half in ICU. Thankfully she's heading toward full recovery.

    I'm not pitching for sympathy, just agreeing with your post - you don't know what you've got till it's taken away

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  16. Thanks for commenting. I know a guy who never had any dramas health wise until he went down in the front yard. Thankfully he was at home and not driving etc. Quadruple bypass was that outcome. Scared the crap out of him understandably. Bolts of lightening and all that.

    All the best to you and your missus.

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  17. Hey T. I necessary once in awhile.

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