I was reading a rant about the double standard of promiscuous (young) women being vilified and promiscuous young men being celebrated. It's a topic you could do a thesis on and I ain't about to do that, but it did get me to using up brain bandwidth that I don't have due to the Dead Sea Scrolls post the other day.
Interestingly enough the author of the rant is right. Disappointingly enough she didn't go past reasoning and only stayed at the rant stage.
It seems to me - caveat: I'm guessing - that the attitude surrounding promiscuity dates back to when we were beating each other senseless with large weighty sticks and rocks. I think you'll find that double standard goes right back to when the Alpha Male was a dominating force in the survival of the tribe itself. Men were measured on their skills as hunters, warriors, and those that succeeded above the others were given the pick of the women to breed with.
I think that traditionally the nurturing parent concept lasted up till the kid could walk then the male either was beaten by another Alpha Male or needed to breed with others for the benefit of the tribe's survival.
I think you'll find the plight of women being a product of similar factors. Not being picked for breeding with Alpha Males and other social and religious factors.
The attitudes today are just a clash of the hangover from those ideals and needs with the modern day demand that EVERYONE, "weak, or strong" has a right to breed and dominate their own little slice of the planet. We don't win those rights any more, they're demanded.
We're not that far out from being a tribe and many cultures still run that way while coexisting with this modern culture.
It's like waves hitting the beach. The beach being our ingrained tribal ways and the water being change.
IT'll happen. But it'll take time.
Like I said, you could do a thesis on this.
Friday, 20 March 2009
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It's an interesting question and I think you've hit the anthropological nail on the head Moko. No matter how 'enlightened' we might get, its never going to be fully acceptable that a woman (young or otherwise dammit) gets to have multiple partners on an on-going basis as nature demands that the female of the species chose her mate (the best she can get from a natural selection perspective) and try and make the best of it while producing younglets. It ain't perfect but it is what it is.
ReplyDeleteThe wummun have the kids. What i mean is They end up more often than not taking care of the ramifications of a quickie in the toilets. They guy gets to make an ethical decision whether to run for the hills. So the heavier burden of being sexually responsible is with the women..... (i'm hiding behind a rock now)
ReplyDeleteI could make soothing noises about how ethically and morally wrong this is - which it is - and how given the opportunity I would make the right decision, but until birth control is 100% most of the heavy lifting will be handled by our friends with the uterus'.
huh..
ReplyDeletedont really care because im not going to procreate.
I must be further evolved - cause I worship the 'slutz' and can't think of a higher compliment for a young lady!
ReplyDeleteLol if only everyone thought that way L, the world would be a much funner place.
ReplyDeleteBefore I got married, I slept with whoever the hell I wanted to. If I felt the urge, I would do it.
ReplyDeleteI had more of a man's mentality when it came to sex. If I wanted it, I got it. After I got it, I walked away and didn't look back. I must admit that my former attitude did not sit well with a handful of men. Boy, whoever said men can walk away from sex without getting tangled up in emotions is WRONG!
Damn men! lol
There should be no double standards, and there wouldn't be if people learned to stop bragging about getting dicked.
I never bragged nor did I ever say anything to anyone. My sex life was my business. I didn't sleep with friends either.. they have big mouths lol
Yes, but women have a vested interest in sleeping around, too, for the sake of genetics. They just sometimes have to wait 9 months and 10 minutes to do so. Human females don't have the obvious signs of oestrus (spelling?) that other species do. Meaning that the husband or mate or whatever may always have the suspicion that he's raising a child that isn't his.
ReplyDeleteOf course, today we have DNA tests, so 1)a woman can be proved to sleep around and 2) if the man runs for the hills, he can be tracked down with genetic precision due to DNA testing.
I think the biggest difference between men and women is that the women sleeping around has never really been openly talked about. But it's certain to have happened throughout history, and its to a woman's evolutionary advantage to shake up the genetic material when she can.
You got it Mary, women can be far, far worse. I have known women that could make Lerm look like TinkerBell. (Sorry Lerm) It's true, they are out there. They are just better at keeping it under wraps.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Mary Kitt and DD. Far more sleeping around by women than men want to admit. However, even after the so-called "sexual revolution" of the 60's and 70's, it is still considered a no-no for females of our species, and is indeed a double standard. I think you make a good case for why that is, Moko.
ReplyDeleteAnne Summers wrote a book called Dmaned Whores And God's Police. It was about how society expected women in Australia to behave. The main thesis was that women were either thought of as sluts or were meant to be the upholders of morality and asexual.
ReplyDeletePretty much fills the bill here.